Older couple going through divorce
By Michael DiFalco
Partner

Deciding to move out of the marital home during separation or divorce can raise concerns about abandonment and how it may affect legal proceedings. Many spouses worry that leaving the family home could harm their case regarding property division, child custody, or spousal support. 

However, New York law does not automatically consider moving out as abandonment—the circumstances matter. Whether you are considering moving out for personal well-being or legal strategy, it’s essential to know how abandonment is defined and when it becomes a legal issue.

What Is Considered Abandonment in New York Divorce Cases?

Abandonment is a legal ground for divorce in New York, but it must meet specific criteria. To be considered abandonment, one spouse must have:

  • Left the marital home without the consent of the other spouse.
  • Remained absent for at least one year continuously.
  • Refused to return despite requests from the remaining spouse.
  • Ceased all marital responsibilities and support.

Simply moving out during a separation does not necessarily constitute abandonment. If the decision to leave was mutual or if there was a justifiable reason, such as domestic violence, the abandonment claim is unlikely to hold up in court.

How Moving Out Affects Divorce Proceedings

Leaving the marital home can impact different aspects of a divorce, particularly in the following areas:

1. Child Custody Considerations

  • If you move out without a custody agreement, it may affect your chances of obtaining primary custody.
  • Courts consider stability and continuity of care, meaning if the children stay with the remaining spouse, they may have an advantage in a custody dispute.
  • To protect your parental rights, establish a temporary custody arrangement before moving out.

2. Property Division and Financial Impact

  • Moving out does not mean forfeiting ownership of the home. New York follows equitable distribution, meaning assets are divided fairly, not necessarily equally.
  • However, continuing to contribute to mortgage or rent payments can demonstrate financial responsibility and help protect your claim to the property.
  • If one spouse remains in the home, they may be responsible for its upkeep, which could be factored into the property settlement.

3. Spousal Support Implications

  • If one spouse moves out and stops providing financial support, it could be seen as financial abandonment, potentially impacting spousal support (alimony) decisions.
  • Courts consider each spouse’s financial contributions and obligations when determining support.

When Moving Out Is a Strategic Decision

In some situations, moving out may be necessary or beneficial, such as:

  • Safety concerns – If there is domestic violence, leaving the home can be critical for your well-being. Obtaining a restraining order can provide legal protection.
  • Reducing conflict – If living together creates a hostile environment, moving out may help reduce emotional stress and conflict.
  • Legal strategy – In some cases, attorneys may advise moving out to strengthen a case for custody or property negotiations. Consulting with a divorce attorney can help assess whether this is a viable option.

Steps to Protect Yourself Before Moving Out

If you decide to leave the marital home, consider these steps to protect your legal and financial interests:

  1. Consult an attorney – Get legal advice on how moving out may affect your case.
  2. Establish a custody agreement – If children are involved, formalize a custody arrangement before leaving.
  3. Document financial contributions – Keep records of mortgage, rent, and utility payments to show continued financial responsibility.
  4. Secure valuable assets – Take an inventory of personal and marital property to avoid disputes later.
  5. Communicate your intentions – If possible, discuss the move with your spouse to avoid misunderstandings.

New York Divorce Attorneys

Moving out of the marital home does not automatically constitute abandonment, but it can have legal implications in divorce proceedings. If you are navigating a separation or divorce in New York and need guidance on the legal impact of moving out, Aiello & DiFalco can help. Contact us today to schedule a consultation.

About the Author
I am a partner at Aiello & DiFalco LLP, and my priority for my clients is to guide them through an arduous court case to provide them with the opportunity to write the next chapter in their lives. I tailor my approach to each client’s priorities and positions, and to the extent that matters can be predicted, I will always provide a realistic perspective of how the law could be applied to the particular facts and circumstances of a case. With more than a decade of experience handling hundreds of cases, I have the ability to get results on the issues my clients view as priorities. When cases or certain issues cannot be settled, I have a solid record of success at trials, hearings, and appeals. Feel free to contact me for a free initial consultation, I am always available to help.