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Can I Change My Child’s Last Name After a Divorce?

By Michael DiFalco
Partner

After a divorce, some parents may wish to change their child’s last name for various reasons, such as the custodial parent wanting the child to have the same surname as their new family. However, changing a child’s last name in New York requires following a legal process, and courts will only approve the change if it’s in the child’s best interests. This blog explains what you need to know.

Legal Process for Changing a Child’s Last Name in New York

You’ll need to file a petition with the court to change your child’s last name. The court will consider several factors before making a decision. Both parents generally need to be involved in the process, and if the other parent objects, the judge will consider their opposition. Here are the key steps:

  1. File a Petition: You must file a formal request (Petition for Change of Name) with the court in your county.
  2. Notify the Other Parent: If the other parent is involved in the child’s life, you must notify them about the petition. The court may require proof that you’ve made a reasonable effort to inform them, even if they no longer live in New York.
  3. Attend a Court Hearing: Both parents may need to attend a hearing where the judge will review the case.
  4. Publish the Name Change: After the court approves the petition, you may need to publish the name change in a local newspaper.
  5. File the Affidavit of Publication: Finally, submit proof of publication to complete the process.

Factors the Court Considers

The court’s primary concern is the best interest of the child. When deciding whether to approve the name change, the judge will look at several factors, including:

  • The Child’s Relationship with Each Parent–If both parents have a positive relationship with the child, the court may hesitate to grant a name change, especially if one parent objects.
  • The Child’s Identity and Emotional Well-Being–Judges will consider whether changing the name could cause confusion or emotional distress for the child. If the child has been using their current last name for a long time, the court may be less inclined to approve a change.
  • The Child’s Age and Preferences–In some cases, older children may express their preference regarding the name change, and the court may consider this.
  • Parental Motives– If the judge believes the request is motivated by animosity between the parents rather than the child’s best interests, they are less likely to approve the change.

The process is typically smoother if both parents agree to the name change. However, if the non-custodial parent objects, they can voice their concerns in court. In cases where a parent is absent, or their location is unknown, the court may waive the requirement for consent, but you must demonstrate that you made reasonable efforts to contact them.

Next Steps

Changing a child’s last name in New York is a detailed legal process that requires court approval. The court will prioritize the child’s best interests and consider factors such as the child’s relationship with both parents, the child’s identity, and any objections raised. If you’re unsure whether a name change is right for your child or how to navigate the process, contact Aiello & DiFalco for guidance. We can help you understand your options and protect your child’s best interests.

About the Author
I am a partner at Aiello & DiFalco LLP, and my priority for my clients is to guide them through an arduous court case to provide them with the opportunity to write the next chapter in their life. I tailor my approach to each client’s priorities and positions, and to the extent that matters can be predicted, I will always provide a realistic perspective of how the law could be applied to the particular facts and circumstances of a case. Since I thrive on helping people and solving problems, I bring an optimistic and positive approach to practicing in a very difficult area of law. With more than a decade of experience handling hundreds of cases, I have the ability to get results on the issues my clients view as priorities. When cases or certain issues cannot be settled, I have a solid record of success at trials, hearings, and on appeals. Feel free to contact me for a free initial consultation, I am always available to help.