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Tips on Achieving an Amicable Divorce

By Michael DiFalco

While the divorce process is often taxing and challenging, it doesn’t always have to be. When spouses are open to working together, they can have a more amicable divorce and reach the end of their marriage in a kinder and friendlier way. 

Our firm handles more amicable divorces than most others and we understand how to make sure that your case can remain amicable, with the additional support necessary to litigate matters if they cannot be resolved outside of the courtroom.

What is an amicable divorce?

An amicable divorce is one where you and your spouse work together rather than against each other. Divorce is often tumultuous and emotional, but in an amicable divorce, both parties approach the process without anger and resentment. 

Changing your approach can work wonders for your divorce and create a positive outcome. Amicable divorces often save time and money, as couples may be able to resolve their issues quicker. 

An amicable divorce is similar to mediation or collaborative divorce, but the process is much more direct. Both parties typically hire an attorney who helps to negotiate an agreement without getting the court or anyone else involved except for the parties, who have control over their family’s outcome.

Tips for an Amicable Divorce

If ending your marriage amicably is one of your goals, the following tips can help you achieve a more collaborative divorce process. 

Go into the Divorce Process with an Open Mind

First and foremost, go into your divorce with an open mind. Even if you believe it’s impossible for you and your spouse to ever have an amicable divorce, never say never. Mindset is everything, and if both spouses are open to the idea of an amicable divorce, it can certainly be achieved. 

Enlist the Right Support

Whether your divorce is amicable or not, you should always ensure you have a support system on your side. Along with a therapist, you’ll also want to hire a skilled divorce lawyer.

Yes, even in an amicable divorce, having a knowledgeable divorce attorney can make all the difference. Divorce can be confusing and challenging, as there are many steps to take and laws to understand. A lawyer can guide you through the process successfully while also providing sound legal advice and keeping your best interests at heart.

Be Clear and Communicative

Communication is key in an amicable divorce. Clear and honest communication is one of the most important parts of attaining a resolution for important legal matters.

Also, make sure to be kind in your communication style. Try to communicate with your spouse in the same manner in which you wish to be communicated with. You can set the tone.

Set Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are essential for many different types of relationships and circumstances, divorce included. 

Going through a divorce changes the dynamic of a relationship. Setting boundaries helps communicate to your spouse how you want your relationship to proceed during your divorce and in the future.

Put the Children First

If you have children, put your children at the center of your divorce. 

Parents inherently want to do what is best for their children, and sharing children can be your common denominator. Make decisions with your kids in mind, and proceed in a manner your children would be proud of. 

Look Toward the Future

Along the same lines, try to look toward the future, especially if you have children. When spouses share kids, the end of a marriage is not the end of the relationship as a whole. 

You might still have to see your ex-spouse for holidays and functions, so it’s best to try to preserve the relationship during your divorce. 

Use Helpful Tools to Reach a Resolution

Depending on your needs, you and your spouse may benefit from certain tools, including mediation. Mediation allows spouses to tackle pertinent matters and make decisions with the help of a neutral third party and their lawyers. 

Allow a New York Divorce Lawyer to Help You Achieve an Amicable Divorce

Aiello & DiFalco has extensive experience guiding clients through amicable divorces. We have built a reputation over decades representing thousands of individuals in amicable divorces where a couple can resolve their financial and parenting issues with dignity, respect and civility, but making sure that they and their children receive a fair outcome. We’re always thrilled to help our clients get through their divorce in a manner that minimizes stress and conflict.

When you’re ready to consult with a qualified divorce attorney in Garden City, NY, contact us to request a consultation.

About the Author
I am a partner at Aiello & DiFalco LLP, and my priority for my clients is to guide them through an arduous court case to provide them with the opportunity to write the next chapter in their life. I tailor my approach to each client’s priorities and positions, and to the extent that matters can be predicted, I will always provide a realistic perspective of how the law could be applied to the particular facts and circumstances of a case. Since I thrive on helping people and solving problems, I bring an optimistic and positive approach to practicing in a very difficult area of law. With more than a decade of experience handling hundreds of cases, I have the ability to get results on the issues my clients view as priorities. When cases or certain issues cannot be settled, I have a solid record of success at trials, hearings, and on appeals. Feel free to contact me for a free initial consultation, I am always available to help.